Being Of Service

Being of Service

Today, ask yourself and the Universe this question:

“How can I be off service today?”

I always smirked at this sentence, because I did not understand it. Being of service does not mean, giving yourself and all of what you have to benefit others, in an act of self-sacrifice. Being of service is actually bringing and creating value. If you solve a problem, issue, question or can give insight from a different point of view someone might have never seen before, you are being of service. The higher the quality your “being of service” is, the more value you bring to the world and in return you will receive value – may it be through connection, or in best case scenarios, monetary compensation. If you can find a way to make “Being Of Service” your job, combined with your inner most passion, nothing – and I mean nothing – is impossible.

Goddess Blessings!

Claudia

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Kindness

I survived an abusive childhood filled with fear. In one particular instance I was so scared, that I thought the only option I had was to run away. I was 16.

So I did, not knowing where to go, I walked into the mission at our train station, a place that was a refuge for those homeless and stranded. If they had space, they allowed you to stay, for a night. There were no beds, just blankets and sleeping bags, a cup of hot tea and a slice of bread with jam, but for me it was a refuge, a safe place.

An older, homeless man, dirty from living on the street, with un-kept hair, and a rucksack that held everything he owned showed me warm smile, an ear, and patience. He made sure I was safe, and allowed me to cry, why he sat there, keeping me company.

To this day – I am 42 now – I will never forget the sweet kindness this man showed me. He gave me what he had, which was empathy, something I did not know from my home. A bigger present than anything I every received before.

I have no idea what happened to him. After that day, I never saw him again, but I am grateful for his presence, however fleeting, and always will be.

May you all find someone to share your space, when you are in need.

Goddess Blessings

Claudia

P.S. This post is a part of the Daily Prompt, with today’s subject being “Oasis”. This above named gentlemen gave me the Oasis – the safe place I needed at the moment. Thank you

Welcome To 2015!

So, traditionally this is the time for New Years resolution. I had always shunned resolutions, as they are usually abandoned before they even had a chance to sprout. But something about this year is different.

Welcome 2015

2014 has been such a turbulent year, that for 2015 I need clear direction. In order to achieve that, considering that we are self-employed, homeschool our children and belong to an alternative religion, any structure we give to a year has to come from ourselves. There is no one to tell us what needs to be done when, we decide. That freedom is wonderful, but it takes discipline if any meaningful work is to be done.

Therefore I chose to go for the New Years resolution, among other things (like using structures apps and programs to help me run the day to day of our lives), and I want to list a few of these here. Maybe in a year, when it is time to review the previous months, life will show itself as a little more calm.

Well, I can at least plan to make the trip a little smoother.

So here are my resolutions (which in true Law of Attraction fashion, I am posting in present tense)

1. I am loosing 15 pounds. I am currently heavier than I have ever been, touching the 140 mark, and I do not like it. Okay, I am now over 40, with a thyroid condition, but I am not giving myself a break here. It is time be back in shape. If I find any books, products or any blog post from other bloggers that help me along the way, I will share them here.

2. I am increasing our income threefold. I have done it before, so I can do it again. With that I mean hubby and I, and we got a pretty solid plan, and are a great team, so that is so workable. One of the ways to achieve this, is by using abundance magick and law of attraction. I will write about that, on the blog you are currently reading.

3. I am moving to Los Angeles. I have been talking about this for 4 years now, and every time something came up. This time, we have the means, the plan, the time frame, the combined efforts and energy, so that will happen. We got to do this before end of April. Did I mention we currently are living in Florida? Not sure, if I want to write about that anywhere yet, but knowing myself, I probably will.

4. I am writing more. Deadlines and all, I am making a list and sticking to it. I will post any updates on publishing schedule on my writing blog. I got a blogging schedule for all of my blogs, and plenty of resources to structure my offline writing. Any great (or not so great) writing books I find will be reviewed on my writing blog.

5. I am organized. I grew up with an abusive perfectionist adoptive father. So I became disorganized, slightly chaotic, and anti-structure. That does not co-exist well with the needs of bookkeeping, payroll and taxes. Just like it does not work well with kids who want to get into college. So, I bought the above mentioned apps and software, bookkeeping essentials, created a daily planner, and I am ready to go. Wish me luck. (I will write about those too – not on my spiritual blog, or my writing blog, but on my productivity blog – yes, I have three blogs!)

6. I practice a more consistent spiritual practice. The last year, I have practiced my Witchcraft on a very irregular schedule. Mind you, I am not Wiccan, I am a Hedgewitch and solitary, so there is no need for structure, expect a personal one. I feel that I can learn a lot from a more regulated, even if self-regulated structure, and will explore that in depth. And of course, as with everything, I will write about it. And that would be on this, exact blog.

So here it is, my list (albeit incomplete, considering that other goals involve other people, and I value their privacy) for 2015. This year, I know, with the help of the Gods, will be my best year yet. I am ready and open for all of the changes and wonderful experiences, as well as the lessons that it holds within, and I am grateful for the present that every moment of the coming year is.

In parting, I wish you all the best as well, as you envisioned, and however it is best for you.

Goddess Blessing

Claudia

P. S. This post is a “The Pagan Experience” Post, based on the prompt for January 5th “Resolutions”. I know I am a little ahead of the posting schedule for that group link, but this topic just demands attention on the first day of the new year!

4 Tips For Overcoming Difficult Times (Law of Attraction)

4 Tips On Overcoming Difficult Times - Law of Attraction

As a practitioner of Law of Attraction, we are told that we attract all of  our situations, and will continue to attract the same  situations if we approach life the same way we have before. Negative will attract negative, and positive will attract positive.

During times when our lives seems out of control, and we wobble from that knowing, we need to remind herself, that we HAVE to stay on track, otherwise our situations will not improve.

 

But how to do that, when everything feels like it is falling apart?

 

  1. Rest in the knowing it is only temporary. No situation lasts forever, and even if at this moment and time, you do not feel like there is an end in sight, remind yourself of times when other situations that where not in your favor eventually ended. There is relief in knowing that trouble is always temporary.
  2. Distract yourself. Deal only with the situation when you really have to, do not wallow in it, or rehash it in conversation with others. Take the actions you need to take, and then do something you love – may it be listen to music, read a few pages of your favorite book, create some form of art, or watch a short comedy. Allow yourself to be completely emerged by that moment of distraction, and acknowledge how good it felt, before you go back to dealing with the issues at hand.
  3. Know that growth requires learning from diverse situations. How to deal with stressful situations is an important lesson to learn, and once you master staying mostly positive even when obstacles come your way, these obstacles will appear less and less in your life. Be grateful for the lesson you learned, and look at the little bits of good that came out of the situation, may it be that you became more resourceful, or that you did not waiver from your path, despite everything.
  4. Be grateful. The most important and effective technique for Law of Attraction is gratitude. Finding gratitude in every situation is always possible, because there is always something to be grateful for. A hug, a breeze, the sound of birds, a warm day, your food, the potential and your ability for learning, are just some examples. If you are really looking for something to be grateful for, you will find it in EVERY situation.

 

It is entirely possible to stay at least mostly positive during the most stressful times. Your outlook will not only make it easier for you to overcome the present situation, but it will also put you in the better frame of mind to attract a more positive life from here on out. The less these situations rock you, the less they will appear, and you are on your way to a more balanced and comfortable life.

 

Happy co-creating

 

Claudia

The Not So Bright Side of Life – Surviving Childhood Abuse

I am a survivor of child abuse.

I know I usually write something uplifting in this blog, but over the last few days I was forced to confront a situation that made me think back to a time, I do not want to recall. You see, my abuser has passed last year, and now his enabler decides that she needs me in her time of sickness. I am supposed to be the good little daughter, whom stands by her side.

But I am not that.

I feel like screaming into the empty space around me, screaming at her how dare she asks for me to help her? Where was she when I needed her? Where was her protection, the fearlessness that I feel when I look at my children, the willingness to die for them, if anyone would dare to do them harm?

Guilt –  is a weapon that is used by many abusers and their enablers to remain in control. Because that is what abuse is about, control, a need to show power over someone that is younger and vonurable. Guilting the victim into doing what they need them to do, to satisfy their needs. In their mind it is always about them.

What she does not count on are two things:

I am no longer a child and I am no longer a victim.

I am a survivor, a mother, a successful business woman, a writer, a motivator, a healer, a wife, and a daughter-in-law. I am free and I am stronger because of what I survived.

To this day, my husband, the champion of my life, my rescuer, and constant believer in me, does not know how much I actually went through. He will never know. I will never tell. And the details do no longer matter. Because they have lost its power.

So, why am I writing this? Because I feel the need for closure, a public statement of saying Goodbye to a family I no longer can have in my life, and a turn toward those who need me instead. It is a good bye to a woman who instead of protecting me, was jealous of the attention “her” man gave me. Not an attention any little girl wants.

Forgiving is not about letting the abusers and their helpers win, it is about acknowledging what happened, saying your piece and moving on, away, without anymore ties to that past. It is allowing yourself and them to move on, without each other, without any more power exchange.

Instead of screaming, I am letting go, I am allowing her to find her piece, but not with me, without me. I can live with my choice. She needs to learn to live with hers. And die with it.

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Don’t Shoot The Messenger

Don't Shoot The Messenger

As I work more and more with Law of Attraction and Gratitude, I have come to the conclusion that I have to learn one very important lesson:

Be aware of the message, while not judging the messenger.

Often I asked for answers to questions, that I am stuck on, and when the Universe answers, it does not always answer through a person whom I particularly enjoy, or in a package I totally agree with. For example, I have been reading a book on promoting one’s writing, and the book ended up being a shameless plug of the Author’s own services and companies. It pissed me off at first, so much so, that I did not want to look at the fact that some of what she is writing are actually worthwhile tips. But than I remembered to asked:

Does it really matter what her motives where, or if she actually been as successful as she claimed (which a quick Google search proofed to be wrong), if what she is saying has partially merit?

No, it does not, because I can take from that book or from any other message I receive the parts that I need, and be grateful for them, rather than wallow in the fact, that the person who wrote it, or brought it to me, does not live up to my standards. That is my problem, not theirs, and that judgment will only take me away from the potential gain – for one, the gain of insight and secondly, the opportunity to be grateful.

My responds will determine what I can do with whatever I have been given. By not “shooting the messenger”, I can actually focus on the message, and learn, grow and use the principles that I have dedicated my life to studying, and practicing.

Nervous Excitement – A Daily Prompt Post

Wedding Day – A Haiku

nervous excitement
her big day approaching fast
flowers in her hair

 

Today we where asked the following from Daily Prompt:

It’s the night before an important event: a big exam, a major presentation, your wedding. How do you calm your nerves in preparation for the big day?

That depends on what the occasion is. Would you really want to miss the part of the tingling, nervous butterflies that come with good news, such as when you are about to get married, or go on the trip of a lifetime, or move into the house of your dreams?

I think not! This excitement is not something to mask or get over, but to savor. After all it is a milestone that often is only reached after time and energy spend, after careful planning, after many actions that brought you to the point, right before the realization of a dream.

Savoring and relishing in that moment of being at the brink of greatness – in which ever form it expresses itself – is a blessings. It is a chance to be grateful for having made it this far, and a chance to hope for many more moments in your life, just like it it.

What is your approach to a big, important event? What do you think about the nervous excitement that comes with it, and how do you deal with it?

Here is what others wrote on the subject today:

http://sugarcoatingsince91.wordpress.com/2014/10/04/music-as-expected/

http://badosto.wordpress.com/2014/10/04/daily-prompt-big-day-ahead/

http://guthonestfaith.wordpress.com/2014/10/04/no-way/

http://tombalistreri.wordpress.com/2014/10/04/calm-before-the-storm/