1. Give up complaining- formulate action statements instead
We all do it – from time to time. But let’s be honest, when was the last time you have complained and as a result, positive change occurred? I guess that you will be hard pressed to find an actual occurrence of that happening. So, why are we continuing to do it? Sharing your complaint can temporary make you feel better, but it will not bring about the lasting change you are looking for.
Instead, learn to change your complaint statements into action statements, by adding a little more to your thought than before.
Here is an example of what I mean:
“I wish my co- worker would respect other people’s space more.”
Instead of leaving it like that, change it to “I wish my co-worker would respect other people’s space more, and I am going to politely ask her to do so, next time she does it again.
Whether you follow through on your statement or not, you have begun to train yourself to look for solutions whenever a problem occurs, rather than just stating a complaint. Now a complaint can become an agent of change.
2. Give up trying to impress others – become clear about what you want for yourself
This decision to give up the need to impress others has a profound impact on your financial well-being and an essential step to take to reach your personal and financial success. Do you really need that latest gadget or this particular designer that is in style, or are you only purchasing it, you can be seen with it. Make sure your motivations for purchases and decision are that of serving you – not the impression you give to others. Any financial decision should be based on your values, comfort, and personal style. Take some time to find out what is the best personal path for you, and follow that – regardless what the trend is.
3.Give up your resistance to change – push beyond your comfort zone
Resistance to change is a major blockade in developing personal growth. Yet for some people who set a high value on certainty, embracing change can be a rather difficult endeavor.
Here are some reasons why people resist change:
1. Sense of loss of control
2. Concern about competence
3. Concern about taking on more work
4. Concern that change might hurt
5. Concern that others might not embrace your change.
Whichever one of these reasons you have for not embracing change, consider identifying the root cause of resistance and work through it, maybe with the help of a Coach, trusted friend or adviser. If this path of sole-searching brings up old wounds that you can not seem to find a way to get through, you might want to consider some more in depth therapy to resolve those issues once and for all.
4. Give up excuses – take responsibility for your responses and future, now.
Building sustainable habits requires us to give up excuses, but why do we keep making them in the first place?
The main reasons behind why most people make excuses is, because of resistance to change and the fear of pain.
Yet how do we overcome this in order to move on?
The most important step to giving up excuses is to know why you want a different experience in you life. Without a compelling reason, there is hardly any chance for long-term change, as it is the reason behind a goal, not willpower that pushes us through to the end, even when it gets hard. If your goals do not have a compelling reason, adjust your goals until you find what excites you for a good reason, rather than a momentary whim.
5. Give up the past – visualize your ideal future instead
In order to learn to let go off the past, one has to learn to be truly present in the present.
This sounds too simple to be true, yet it is the most powerful truth you can embrace when it comes to overcoming a difficult past – focusing on the moment. Mindfulness meditations, gratitude practice, and breathing exercises can move your thoughts from being stuck in what used to be, toward what is right now, forcing you to connect with the only moment of power – the present moment. Practicing those techniques regularly as a part of your morning and/or evening routine, makes it easier to engage in the now, and create lasting change. Visualizing your goals on a regular basis, is an important part of this new directing your thoughts, and gives you a chance to practice the emotional vibration of the state of your desires. Combining both techniques will after time ease the stronghold of past times over your life, and you will create an overall healthier and happier future.
Have a blessed week!